Internet Highlander

ON "GOSSIP" (TW: Rape)

designislaw:

Before I start, a heads up for those that don’t follow me on Twitter: my laptop was stolen earlier this week so I’m forced to try and type this post on my phone. I’m trying to get a new one as soon as possible, any donations to my PayPal at templar895@gmail.com are greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

dduane:

Today’s fractal…

dduane:

Today’s fractal…

Marginalized people are not revolution objects

realsocialskills:

So, here’s a thing I’ve seen happen:

  • People get really into social justice theory
  • and then they read a lot from people who all agree with each other
  • and then they assume that everyone in that group agrees
  • and then, when they encounter someone in that group who doesn’t think that thing, they don’t know how to deal with them
  • or they’re rude and condescending

For instance:

  • Someone who reads a lot of disability theory is excited about the idea of acceptance
  • And, in particular, the reasons that mobility equipment is liberating and wonderful
  • And they encounter someone who is enduring considerable pain rather than use a wheelchair
  • And then they talk at them about how they just need to accept themself already, without listening to where they’re actually coming from
  • That is not respectful. It can sometimes be ok to express an opinion or offer advice (emphasis on offer; people can say no to hearing your advice), but it’s not ok to try and run someone else’s life, or to take control of their self image, or related stuff
  • Respecting someone has to start with respecting them as people who think for themselves, not trying to make them do what you think self-respecting people do

keep in mind that:

  • No matter how much you’ve read, you’ve never been the person you’re talking to
  • That goes double if you’re not a member of their group, but it applies even if you are
  • Having read a lot of social justice theory, or even being part of that group and having found that it described your experience, does *not* mean that you know better than someone else how they should be living their life
  • Don’t try to take people over, and don’t talk down to them
  • The last thing marginalized people need is yet another person trying to run over them for their own good. They get that enough already

People are complicated, and you are never the expert on someone else’s life. Reading social justice theory, and even being really insightful about what’s wrong with our culture, does not make you an expert on someone else’s life. Their life is for them to live and make decisions about. Marginalized people are not revolution objects.

youneedacat:

kokosnsse:

fuckyeahriotgrrrlsofcolor:

A few of my followers/friends know that my grandmother has been ill for a while and passed two days ago. Sadly we are really struggling with getting the money together for her funeral. My cousin decided to create a gofundme which is already getting donations. I appreciate a dollar, signal boost, kind words, anything you can give!
Thank you~ Mod Natalie

Hi, many of you may know me from YouTube or other social media. Two days ago my grandmother passed suddenly from complications while staying in the hospital. This time is especially hard for my family and we are stretching ourselves thin trying to finalize the funeral arrangements. I am asking each of my followers to donate $1 or $2 if you can spare. I appreciate all the love and support that I receive from each one of you. My grandmother was the type of person to give her last and her all to anyone in need and I want to do the same for her. If you are unable to donate it’s okay your positive prayers in this time will also help my family to get through this rough time. Again I thank you for your time and consideration and I pray for the well being and health of you and your family members. Best, Ashley Gadsden aka “thehappyhairshow”
http://www.gofundme.com/cblhnw


My grandmother bought two brownstones across the street from each other and opened them up to any and everyone that needed a place to stay and a hot meal. Those places still stand today thanks to my aunt; The House of Hope in Brooklyn, New York. She was always the person that gave her last to someone in need and I am sad that now that she has passed I am not seeing her generosity reciprocated by the people she helped most. But she always taught me to believe in the kindness of strangers! Any bit counts thank you guys.

My father is dying, and if this were his situation I would do the exact same thing.  Signal boosting.  And will try to donate a little (I don’t have a lot, I’m poor and have medical expenses) when my money comes in on Friday.

youneedacat:

kokosnsse:

fuckyeahriotgrrrlsofcolor:

A few of my followers/friends know that my grandmother has been ill for a while and passed two days ago. Sadly we are really struggling with getting the money together for her funeral. My cousin decided to create a gofundme which is already getting donations. I appreciate a dollar, signal boost, kind words, anything you can give!

Thank you~ Mod Natalie

Hi, many of you may know me from YouTube or other social media. Two days ago my grandmother passed suddenly from complications while staying in the hospital. This time is especially hard for my family and we are stretching ourselves thin trying to finalize the funeral arrangements. I am asking each of my followers to donate $1 or $2 if you can spare. I appreciate all the love and support that I receive from each one of you. My grandmother was the type of person to give her last and her all to anyone in need and I want to do the same for her. If you are unable to donate it’s okay your positive prayers in this time will also help my family to get through this rough time. Again I thank you for your time and consideration and I pray for the well being and health of you and your family members. Best, Ashley Gadsden aka “thehappyhairshow”

http://www.gofundme.com/cblhnw

My grandmother bought two brownstones across the street from each other and opened them up to any and everyone that needed a place to stay and a hot meal. Those places still stand today thanks to my aunt; The House of Hope in Brooklyn, New York. She was always the person that gave her last to someone in need and I am sad that now that she has passed I am not seeing her generosity reciprocated by the people she helped most. But she always taught me to believe in the kindness of strangers! Any bit counts thank you guys.

My father is dying, and if this were his situation I would do the exact same thing.  Signal boosting.  And will try to donate a little (I don’t have a lot, I’m poor and have medical expenses) when my money comes in on Friday.

(via wintergrey)

startrekrenegades:

"i respect you as a fellow human but i am going to insult you and accuse you of things"

yeah okay enjoy your high horse, hope it doesn’t buck

loquaciousquark:

servantofclio:

Some days I really need to silence the little voice in the back of my head that’s saying “oh, this is too self-indulgent / tropey / unrealistic, I shouldn’t put it in the story”

and remember that it’s fanfiction

and I’m writing it

so who else should I be indulging?

YEP. It’s all well and good to write high noble pieces of art meant to say Great Things about Life, but sometimes there’s just nothing like a good old-fashioned Pretend Marriage Telepathic Secret Spy AU.

This goes for original fic, too, btw. There’s a reason this stuff is consistently showing up—because it fulfills people’s needs. It makes them feel good. Put that shit in there, write the hell out of it.

Honestly would you be standing there making a sundae and thinking: “Oh, man, maybe I shouldn’t use chocolate AND vanilla ice cream in this. Man, marshmallows are so done, didn’t someone use marshmallows last week? Chocolate syrup, everyone uses that. Oh no, whipped cream… is that too indulgent? No maraschino cherries. It’s tacky, right?”  

…actually, now that we’re looking at this, anyone else seeing a theme here around (mostly) women making, getting, consuming, and enjoying things that make them feel good/happy/satisfied?

Yeah. Me, too.

(via eponymous-rose)

youneedacat:

kokosnsse:

fuckyeahriotgrrrlsofcolor:

A few of my followers/friends know that my grandmother has been ill for a while and passed two days ago. Sadly we are really struggling with getting the money together for her funeral. My cousin decided to create a gofundme which is already getting donations. I appreciate a dollar, signal boost, kind words, anything you can give!
Thank you~ Mod Natalie

Hi, many of you may know me from YouTube or other social media. Two days ago my grandmother passed suddenly from complications while staying in the hospital. This time is especially hard for my family and we are stretching ourselves thin trying to finalize the funeral arrangements. I am asking each of my followers to donate $1 or $2 if you can spare. I appreciate all the love and support that I receive from each one of you. My grandmother was the type of person to give her last and her all to anyone in need and I want to do the same for her. If you are unable to donate it’s okay your positive prayers in this time will also help my family to get through this rough time. Again I thank you for your time and consideration and I pray for the well being and health of you and your family members. Best, Ashley Gadsden aka “thehappyhairshow”
http://www.gofundme.com/cblhnw


My grandmother bought two brownstones across the street from each other and opened them up to any and everyone that needed a place to stay and a hot meal. Those places still stand today thanks to my aunt; The House of Hope in Brooklyn, New York. She was always the person that gave her last to someone in need and I am sad that now that she has passed I am not seeing her generosity reciprocated by the people she helped most. But she always taught me to believe in the kindness of strangers! Any bit counts thank you guys.

My father is dying, and if this were his situation I would do the exact same thing.  Signal boosting.  And will try to donate a little (I don’t have a lot, I’m poor and have medical expenses) when my money comes in on Friday.

youneedacat:

kokosnsse:

fuckyeahriotgrrrlsofcolor:

A few of my followers/friends know that my grandmother has been ill for a while and passed two days ago. Sadly we are really struggling with getting the money together for her funeral. My cousin decided to create a gofundme which is already getting donations. I appreciate a dollar, signal boost, kind words, anything you can give!

Thank you~ Mod Natalie

Hi, many of you may know me from YouTube or other social media. Two days ago my grandmother passed suddenly from complications while staying in the hospital. This time is especially hard for my family and we are stretching ourselves thin trying to finalize the funeral arrangements. I am asking each of my followers to donate $1 or $2 if you can spare. I appreciate all the love and support that I receive from each one of you. My grandmother was the type of person to give her last and her all to anyone in need and I want to do the same for her. If you are unable to donate it’s okay your positive prayers in this time will also help my family to get through this rough time. Again I thank you for your time and consideration and I pray for the well being and health of you and your family members. Best, Ashley Gadsden aka “thehappyhairshow”

http://www.gofundme.com/cblhnw

My grandmother bought two brownstones across the street from each other and opened them up to any and everyone that needed a place to stay and a hot meal. Those places still stand today thanks to my aunt; The House of Hope in Brooklyn, New York. She was always the person that gave her last to someone in need and I am sad that now that she has passed I am not seeing her generosity reciprocated by the people she helped most. But she always taught me to believe in the kindness of strangers! Any bit counts thank you guys.

My father is dying, and if this were his situation I would do the exact same thing.  Signal boosting.  And will try to donate a little (I don’t have a lot, I’m poor and have medical expenses) when my money comes in on Friday.

medievalpoc:

[TW: harassment, threats, stalking, violence, slurs, racism]

So, someone decided to post this submission with a link to medievalpoc to a subreddit called “Tumblr In Action” this morning.

I’ve posted about this before.

Let’s stop pretending we have no idea where this comes from:

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And can we stop pretending as if these supposed “rules” actually mean anything, or are ever actually enforced:

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Medievalpoc has received tens of thousands of hits from this particular subreddit from more than 60 separate threads, some of which have hundreds of derogatory comments, using slurs, threats, and racist ‘jokes’.

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And it is somehow a “coincidence” that I have had to speak to police four times and make official reports due to threats, stalking, harassment, and other nastiness? That people have followed me around in person without my knowledge or consent because of this? People have circumvented the “ignore” function by creating accounts just to send racial slurs and threats.

The rest of this is going under a cut, because it is truly horrific. Please proceed with caution.

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White supremacy and misogynist patriarchy at work. You should read what’s under the cut to understand the extent of this, it’s deeply disturbing. 

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